Betrayed Partner Crime Sheet
Throughout the novel BEYOND PISD, Meg is repeatedly confronted with all the ways Art’s infidelity has impacted her and everything in her world. It not only disrupted their family life and their friendships, Art’s infidelity had a huge impact on Meg, her sense of self, her thoughts, her emotions, and her physical well-being.
Discovering your spouse’s infidelity impacts every aspect of your being and your life. One of the paradoxes of healing from infidelity is that recovery only comes as you take a detailed inventory of all the ways the infidelity has impacted your life. First, the knowledge of the infidelity changes your thoughts, feelings, behaviors and their very spirit which is at the very centre of your being.
Beyond the impact on you personally, the effects of infidelity reverberate around your entire lifespace significantly altering family relationships, your community involvement, your work and workplace relationship, and the activities that previously brought purpose and meaning to life. Naming all the ways your spouse’s infidelity has impacted your life is an important step in the your personal recovery.
The Crime Sheet provide a structure of taking the inventory of the multiple ways infidelity has impacted your life.
Download, print and complete the worksheet here.
As much as any soldier returning from the battlefield, you need and deserve the best help available; as you recover from the complex trauma of intimate partner betrayal.
Intimate Betrayal Trauma is complex. You deserve the best help available. Click on these links to find help recovering from your Post-Infidelity Stress Disorder (PISD):
International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals
REFLECTING ON THE TRAUMA (PISD)
In the novel BEYOND PISD, Meg’s immediate response to discovery was disbelief and then anger (Page 2). In later chapters, she experienced a range of reactions (Pages 6, 16,17, 20). Meg’s therapist helps her understand the complex trauma she was experiencing (Page 229).
- How were Meg’s responses to discovering Art’s infidelity similar to and different from post-infidelity stress disorder?
- What helped Meg cope with her complex trauma?
BIBLIOTHERAPY QUESTIONS
Betrayed Partner:- In what ways did your spouse’s infidelities impact you personally: Thoughts? Emotions? Physically? Spirit?
- In what ways did your spouse’s infidelities impact your Lifespace: Family? Social Life? Work Life? Individual Pursuits?
- What did your infidelity do to your partner’s Sense of Self? Security? Family & Social Relationships? Work life? Hobbies & Fun?
- When you were cheating, how aware were you of what you were doing to your partner?
- How did knowing that you caused your partner intense stress impact you?
- What did you do to ease your partner’s PISD? Did it help?